“You are dismissed”… a phrase I hear often from my Goddess. With those words, She may end any conversation or interaction immediately and without reason. On the other hand, I am not allowed to end conversations. Unless life totally pulls me away, I hang in her presence until dismissed. We practice this rule, this form of bdsm Protocol, pretty much all the time. It’s not contained to a scene or circumstance.

There have been times I’ve deeply desired to end a conversation because there’s something I need to do. But this rule reinforces, in daily life, our dynamic: Goddess comes first before all my needs or desires. It transcends sexuality and gets into philosophy. It’s a different way to live.

Protocol like this is rarely seen even amongst kinky couples. It’s not really even about kink. Even when one of us is sick or stressed out, conversations still hang on that simple phrase, “you are dismissed”.

Trapped in Her Orbit: Protocol holds me until dismissed.

Goddess Maya Loux reclines for a shoe cleaning
Who wouldn’t want to be trapped in Her orbit?

It can have the effect of trapping me in her orbit. Take this scenario for example. I’m at the grocery store shopping when Goddess texts me. My shopping trip is paused. Everything is about the conversation she wants to have. My attention is fully devoted to her. Knowing she could end the conversation at any time I’m hooked, soaking up her thoughts and words. My mind focuses on the value I can provide. If the conversation isn’t holding her attention she’ll send me away.

It doesn’t matter if the store closes in 10 minutes. The clock and hunger might be niggling in the back of my mind, but it doesn’t matter as much as Goddess. Mind you, this is not a sexual interaction. It runs deeper than that.

This can happen at any time. It’s happened in the middle of meetings at work, while cooking, even while using the bathroom. It didn’t happen over night, but this simple rule continually trains me to put Her first. Which, in case you’re wondering is something we both want.

Bdsm protocol: It’s not for everyone and it takes time

Protocol isn’t for everyone. It’s rarely found with casually kinky people who prefer to keep their domination and submission strictly in the bedroom. Protocol might be found with professional dommes, but again, it usually stays within a scene and tends to be sexually oriented. It’s a form of training. This type of protocol within bdsm is more akin to training one’s partner to feel or act a certain way, often for the betterment of the relationship. It can also be used to inject eroticism into otherwise boring or unpleasant situations.

Take for example, that we adhere to this at all times, even when sick, tired or otherwise unsexy. Obeying this rule, no matter what’s going on, compliments Her. She knows no matter how she looks, or how she’s feeling or acting, I’m going to obey her. The same, no matter what mood I’m in or what I’m doing, she controls the situation and can command or dismiss my full attention as she pleases.

Protocol is something which builds and develops over time, strengthening until it becomes completely natural. Being “dismissed” started like a game. With time, it’s grown into second nature. It’s no less second nature than stopping at a red light or eating breakfast. Even on a day like today, where Goddess was having something of an emotional moment and I had a hangover.

What’s next?

I think bdsm protocol is a topic worth discussing, so I plan to start making regular posts about it, including how our protocol develops over time. This is in the hopes other will be inspired by or learn from it, and understand how amazing Goddess Maya truly is.

Do you have some interest or experience with this? Comment below and tell us about it.

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